what should i do? I think my preggo moodswings are going to end my relationship with my boyfriend?
jeguiris asked:
i dont know what to do i wish i can control it but i cant and every time i get my moodswings they are fully blown and im only 6-7 weeks pregnant please some one help i dont know what to do
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i dont know what to do i wish i can control it but i cant and every time i get my moodswings they are fully blown and im only 6-7 weeks pregnant please some one help i dont know what to do
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July 7th, 2004 at 11:31 am
i am the same way its crazy i could us an answer to this too!!!
July 8th, 2004 at 2:50 pm
hey just take a breath. read or write down your probelms. go walking its good for the baby. and take things slow, he will underdstand!
July 11th, 2004 at 10:10 pm
you need to sit down, write down all the things are are going on around, sit down with your boyfriend tell him all the things that you are thinking, feeling, your hormones right now are at the highest, it goes up and down, and it should level out. try putting all the energy into your relationship, or making something for your baby,
July 12th, 2004 at 6:38 pm
I know it’s hard, but hear me out. My husband and I decided that it was affecting our relationship so here’s what we did. When my mood swings would flare, my husband would just say, “Go get your thoughts together and then come back and we will talk about it.” It was hard to walk away and sometimes it made me even more mad! But I would go write down everything I was thinking and read it. It would hit me how ridiculous it all sounded and then we could talk about it. It only lasted during my first trimester and then it calmed down. I think it’s because your hcg homones are doubling very 24 hours in the first trimester. You will deal with this again towards the end of the third trimester, but mostly because you just don’t want to be pregnant any more. Tell him you really want to work on this, but you need his help!
July 14th, 2004 at 9:38 am
get a book on expecting I recommend Babyproofing your marriage ( even though your just boyfriend and girlfriend. Also get a relationship book- you will not have time to work on your relationship after the baby arrives. So do it now!!! I suggest Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Also let your boyfriend know that your hormones should settle down in the 2nd trimester but that varies. GO DO IT NOW!
July 14th, 2004 at 10:00 am
It’s funny when I was pregnant (just had baby two weeks ago) I never hated and loved my boyfriend so much at the same time. We use to fight alot but he knew that I was going through a ruff time. It never really stopped It was like that until i was maybe 33 weeks. There were plenty of times i thought he was going to leave and he did to but then i started to walk away and be by myself when I thought I was going to lose it and that helped alot. Its hard right now and you just have to be there for each other. good luck
July 14th, 2004 at 7:26 pm
this happened to me on this pregnancy. the best things that i did are as follows: take you bf to the doctor. let the DOCTOR explain to him that it is normal. you are going through an extreme amount of hormonal changes. HE needs to understand that. #2 walk away. when something starts, go to a different room and breathe. getting yourself upset, now affects 2 people, yourself & the baby. you are still in the miscarriage stage, stress is bad at this time. when you feel like ripping someones head off, do something else. walk, lay down, watch a movie, call someone. #3 realize that you cannot be superwoman during this time. believe it or not, it isn’t just the hormones. you can’t do what you are used to doing, your whole life will be different for the next 8 months. split things with him instead of the dishes, sit on your ass and do nothing. instead of the errand that needs to be done, ask him to do it. stress from these things, add alot. im starting to get a little better by the day, im 19 weeks now. it has been hard. i think i have left my hubby, with my kids piled in the backseat, about 6 times. no joke. i know what you are going through. and if you do these things and are stil having a hard time, then mabey you should talk to the doc about something safe to take (zoloft, etc) for a couple of months. last but not least, is your bf just naturally un-supportive??? if could be more him than you. good luck!
July 16th, 2004 at 8:45 pm
I was the same way, and really I still am (but since the wedding I feel a little better about scaring him off). Just remind him that you are very sensitive, emotional, and hormonal right now. They have books for the Dad to be to read, that helps explain how you might be feeling.
July 20th, 2004 at 1:47 am
i was in the same situation. extreme mood swings. but my boyfriend got involved and was very supportive. if he loves you, he will understand that’s it’s just hormones. congrats on the pregnancy!